‘Perfection is a myth’. This statement sounds as bizarre as it could be, owing to the notations every single individual holds with respect to the term ‘perfection’. To sound more subtle and convincing, let me put it this way- ‘Perfection is subjective and timely bound’. It means different to different persons and cannot be defined on a common ground. Yet, let us take a sneak peek into various considerations in identifying perfectionism.
Perfection often stands as a synonym to ‘flawless’. A flawless personality, a flawless thing, a flawless art, a flawless world. But what ideas actually define perfection on a broader spectrum is a constant question. The desire to be perfect, with respect to human beings has risen constantly over the past few decades and many fail to realise that this desire propels them not necessarily towards success. Young people are seemingly internalizing a pre- eminent contemporary myth that things including themselves, should be perfect. People these days want everything to be perfect- a perfect life partner, perfect career, a perfect job, a perfect body etc. And most often these desires manifest into unrealistic expectations ending into psychological turmoil when not attained. Losing flexibility and adaptability, in terms of accepting some of the things the way they are, can be detrimental.
Our society has set up some weird norms of being perfect. Its time we brood over them and question the same if necessary. Restricting ourselves, creating barriers and not moving on is the greatest disability. Most often these disabilities or imperfections lie in our thoughts, in the personalities we project. But people are only obsessed and preoccupied with physical imperfections. Even if the body is caged, the mind is always free and so is the spirit. Anyone can still dream big, aim high and aspire to inspire. Then how does any physical imperfection really matter? Great, inspiring personalities like Stephen Hawking, Louis Braille and many more made it absolutely clear that disabilities do not stand in the criteria for defining perfection.
Perfection is purely subjective. The definition of perfection for one, might not be the same for some other. For my mom, the family of four, who
keeps calling out for her 24/7, and can almost do nothing productive without her, seems to be a perfect family. For my dad, the irregularly amoeba shaped chapatis, I make for him, seem to be perfect. The all set beautifully made cake, prepared by my sister and me, which breaks unfortunately into two odd pieces just before serving somehow still seems to be perfect( The taste remains okay, though! ). Even during this pandemic, with such a deadly virus and a continuously extending lockdown in the background, life despite of every odd thing, still seems to be perfect as I accept the fact that I’m privileged enough to have a roof over my head and food in my plate, which so many people out there are unfortunately denied of.
Remember nothing can be forever and long lastingly perfect. Even a perfect machine gets subjected to wear and tear in the long run. To be constantly perfect, in this super paced world, is impossible. Perfectionism often means no room for improvement. It’s okay to be flawed, as long as you keep growing. Sharing love, spreading a smile, empathising with others makes you absolutely perfect. Then what’s the point in running behind materialistic perfections? No one needs to be perfect for the sake of others, period. We all are perfectly imperfect in this imperfect world and that’s perfectly alright. The cities with shimmering lights, horns and hustle and the mountain ranges with humility and calmness, both are perfect- while only the window through which one looks at things satisfies one’s soul with appropriate, yet different answers.
Inputs by Sindhuja Ragathi